I admit, I can be terrible about sending thank you notes. During the school year, I remember to write thank you notes to the parents and families when I receive gifts. However, in my daily life, I make excuses, get busy, or resort to a text message. Gratitude via text message is not inappropriate, but the art of thank you notes isn’t dead. Here is a thank you note etiquette guide for the busy woman.
Reasons you can send a thank you note
There are many reasons you can send a thank you note, but here are just a few:
If you receive a gift (birthday, wedding, shower, etc.)… or a puppy (you should always write a “thank you” note if someone gives you a puppy)
If someone brings you food.
If someone cooks for you. (At your house or theirs)
If someone picks you up or takes you to the airport and saves you the Uber fare.
If someone helps you with something.
If someone takes care of your house while you are away.
If someone takes care of your dogs while you are away.
If someone supports you during a difficult time.
If you interview for a job.
Have you ever received a “thank you for being my friend” card just because? One of my best friends is the absolute best at writing thank you notes. Often, she writes letters and cards to her friends just because. One of my thirty things to do before turning 30 is to write 30 handwritten notes to people in my life that mean the most to me. Most of these will be “thank you for being my friend because” cards just because.
Tips for writing thank you notes
Timing is everything
Be sure to send a thank you note within the week of receiving the help or gift. The exception: after your wedding, you should write your thank you cards within six weeks.
Have a stack of blank thank you cards
One of the best ways to greatly increase the probability of writing a thank you note is to have thank you cards on hand at all times. Keep a stack at home and work, so you can promptly write a thank you note.
I discovered Basic Invite and I don’t think I will ever buy a pack of cards at the grocery store again. Despite their name, they offer more than just baby shower, wedding, and birthday invitations. You can actually create custom thank you cards from an upload or a template. Since they offer over 160 color options and ability to change the color of every element, including the envelope color, to create a truly personalized thank you card. Speaking of envelopes, they have the peel and seal kind, so you don’t have to lick them!
You can design and order a set, or create several custom samples to make a variety pack. I designed several cards with the same color scheme and ordered the samples. Either way, ordering a sample is a great way to see exactly how your cards or invitations will print out. This would have come in handy 8 years ago when I ordered my wedding invitations.
Collect colorful pens
Your pens don’t have to be colorful, but have several great pens available. I have a stationary box full of thank you cards and a pen jar on my desk to make it writing thank you cards easily accessible.
Keep stamps on hand
It’s all about convenience nowadays. When you have everything you need to write and send a thank you note at your fingertips, you will be more likely to do so.
What to say
Be sincere and personal. Keep it simple. Use names and be sure to spell everything correctly. Thank the person for the gift/help. Include how you will use the gift or where you will displayed it (if it is flowers or something). Write a sincere ending. Sign your name.
Dear (enter name here),
Thank you for the __________. This will come in handy for my ___________. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. I hope to see you soon.
When do you usually send thank you notes? Leave me a comment below! Also, check out Basic Invite and let me know what card/invitation you plan to order.
This post was sponsored by Basic Invite, but all opinions remain my own.