Setting Your Purpose in 2018

January 2, 2018
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With every new year comes goals and resolutions that, to be honest, I only sometimes keep up with. Often times, I find myself making a list of goals and things I want to accomplish, but rarely do I cross everything off my list. I have good intentions, and I usually make my goals pretty reasonable. However, I typically look back at the end of the year with some disappointment for the goals I didn’t quite meet.

This year, I am changing that. I decided to set my purpose for 2018 and choose three words to live out daily. Sure, there will be some goals associated with the words, but they won’t be my main focus. So, what is purpose?

Purpose is “the reason for which something exists” (

Lately, I have asked myself, “what is my purpose? Why do I exist?” Although I may not ever know my true purpose on Earth, I at least can choose what I hope others see in me. In 2018, my purpose, or three words I want to focus more on are

Encourage. Challenge. Kindness.


Since I was little, I was convinced my main purpose was to encourage. That has always been my word. I hope my friends, family, coworkers, students, and others see me as an encourager. A few years ago, I remember sitting through my counseling interviews and they asked me “what is something you can bring our students and school” and I answered “encouragement.” Although I was never a cheerleader in school, I consider myself a cheerleader in life.

What does encouragement look like for 2018?

Ways I hope to encourage in 2018: Speak positivity into the lives of my friends, family, and myself. Rather than fall in the trap of negative thinking, I want to actively pursue positivity and share that with others. Often times, this is much easier to do for other people and not so easy for myself, but encouragement should be all encompassing. This year I will practice self-encouragement as I continue to encourage others.


This word is difficult for me, because I tend to find comfort in the familiar. I don’t like stepping out of my comfort zone and like things to stay relatively the same. This year, I want to make some changes to that.

How can I challenge myself in 2018?

Ways I hope to challenge in 2018: I hope to challenge myself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In March, Colton and I will join my best friend in Costa Rica for a week long surf camp. I have never surfed before and don’t think of myself as the strongest swimmer. This year, I am upping my workout regimen and will be working with a personal trainer at LFT Personal Training in Plano. I chose them because the location, hours, flexibility, and low membership pricing. My first session starts today, and I cannot wait to share my experience with you over the next few months. If getting in better shape is a goal for you this year, check them out. Your intro session is free.

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Emotionally and spiritually, I plan on taking more risks outside of my comfort zone. Honestly, I am not sure exactly what this will look like, but when opportunities present themselves, I want to accept the challenge. Not having an exact plan laid out goes against my type A personality, but I think it will be good for me.


Kindness may seem like the easiest word, but it’s not always easy to be kind. I struggle with choosing kind words to say to and about people I get angry with. However, I believe that kindness can truly change the world. If everyone focused on being a little more kind to others it could inspire change in a big way. This year, I want to be a part of that movement.

In what ways can I show compassion for 2018?

Ways I hope to show compassion in 2018: I want to consistently seek opportunities to show random acts of kindness to others. This could be in simple ways like a smile or holding the door for someone or larger ways like buying a meal, giving up time, or donating to charity. In addition to showing kindness to strangers, I want to be more intentional about how I talk to others when I am frustrated. Words are powerful and crucial to relationships, so I want to choose kind words to empower those around me.


That’s it. Three not-so-simple words to live out each day. I am writing them down and posting them on my mirror, in my car, on my calendar and anywhere else I need to to remind me.

So…what’s your purpose?

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What three words will you be living out in 2018? Leave me a comment below. 

  • Brittney January 2, 2018 at 10:33 am

    I LOVE this post! Those three words are pretty much parallel to mine if I had to pick three as well. I always strive to focus on positivity, encourage is just wonderful, same with acts of kindness. and have SO MUCH FUN on that surfing trip!

    • Jessica January 4, 2018 at 7:33 pm

      Thank you so much Brittney! I will for sure! Working on strengthening myself so I don’t look a crazy mess out there. haha.

  • Marcie January 2, 2018 at 11:39 am

    I also used to think my purpose was to encourage others. I was life’s biggest cheerleader for my friends and family. Now, I think it’s more to support and be part of a reliable parenting community.

    • Jessica January 4, 2018 at 7:39 pm

      That sounds like a great purpose for sure. <3

  • Destany January 2, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    A few years ago I made a resolution to be more kind. I lasted until September – which I thought was pretty good haha I tried surrounding myself with people who would make that easy… but wow, people can just be mean and stupid 🙂

    • Jessica January 4, 2018 at 7:40 pm

      Absolutely. People around you can have such a huge effect.

  • nefeli January 2, 2018 at 12:32 pm

    Search for my main purpose. I think is more than one. Be more calm, kind and appreciate small things is my purpose

    • Jessica January 10, 2018 at 12:49 pm

      Those sound perfect! I like them all.

  • Jordan | Read. Eat. Repeat. January 2, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    Beautifully written, and I love your three words. Kindness, much to my chagrin, is a struggle for me as well. It’s something I really want to work on because I know my kids are watching and I want them to learn kindness from me.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:28 am

      Thank you, Jordan. And yes, they are watching and can learn so much from you.

  • Angela Tolsma January 2, 2018 at 2:18 pm

    This post is so inspiring. I love what you’ve written on encouragement! But what really gets me is your thoughts on Kindness. Kindness is one of my words for 2018 (the other being trust) but I haven’t really been able to put into words why I wanted that word and you have definitely wrapped it up nicely! Cheers to a great year and enjoy your surf camp!

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:29 am

      Thank you! I can’t wait.

  • Marjie Mare January 2, 2018 at 2:23 pm

    I have found my purpose and I am working on it. Every day comes with a new challenge, but I am trying to stick to my purpose as much as I can. It is rewarding to live your life purposefully.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:29 am

      I agree completely.

  • April January 2, 2018 at 7:20 pm

    Encouragement, kindness and challenging yourself to be a better person are such virtuous goals! I think these are goals that anyone should be focusing on in the upcoming year.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:29 am

      For sure. Thank you so much!

  • Stephanie January 2, 2018 at 7:43 pm

    These are amazing words to live by, and even more so in the way you explained them. I want to be more positive this year, focus on making sure to spend time with my children, and teach them kindness through example. It’s not always easy, but it can be done.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:30 am

      It absolutely can be! You can totally do the positivity thing!

  • Caitlin Patoka January 2, 2018 at 9:23 pm

    Surf camp in Costa Rica sounds like an absolute dream! And it sounds like you will be well prepared for it. Can’t wait to hear more about that! Great goals for 2018

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:30 am

      Thank you! I can’t wait!

  • Jazmin Williams January 2, 2018 at 9:30 pm

    This was such an inspiring post! Surf Camp in Costa Rica sounds absolutely amazing. I think my three words would have to be Create, Inspire and Explore as I want to create more this year. I also want to inspire and be inspired in many ways. And I have a real travel bug at the moment, so I’m hoping to explore new places.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:31 am

      Those are great words! I love exploring new places.

  • kisma January 3, 2018 at 6:59 am

    Beautiful post! I can relate to all three of these words! Costa Rica is an amazing place and I am so excited for you and hope you accomplish your fitness goals!

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:31 am

      Thank you so much!

  • Deb Savage January 3, 2018 at 7:30 am

    Having a purpose for everything that you are doing is so important. Setting goals without purpose is pretty much meaningless. Thanks for this post!

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:31 am

      Absolutely! I couldn’t agree more.

  • Hanna Smith January 3, 2018 at 7:42 am

    I love this! Setting a Purpose gives us so much more and goes so much deeper than just setting a resolution or goal that is just meaningless with nothing behind it.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:32 am

      Thank you! I agree completely.

  • kara January 3, 2018 at 7:58 am

    I’m all about setting purposes! I do them for the day, week and month! 🙂

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:32 am

      I love that! What a fantastic idea!

  • Lauren January 3, 2018 at 9:01 am

    This is amazing! I love the theme of encouraging. I know you and I can both use that one so much at work, but it’s definitely one to think about outside of work too!

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 7:33 am

      Right? There are so many opportunities for that with the littles.

  • Ashley January 3, 2018 at 9:35 am

    I love what you’ve written about encouraging others. My focus has always been on challenging myself, but there’s so much value in driving others to challenge themselves, too, and supporting them through the process.

    • Jessica January 11, 2018 at 12:12 pm

      Thank you, Ashley. I agree completely. 🙂

  • Beth January 3, 2018 at 10:04 am

    Such a great way to look at goals for the year! And I love yours, especially kindness. We all can use a little more of that in our lives!

    • Jessica January 12, 2018 at 9:44 am

      Thank you! I agree.

  • ShootingStarsMag January 3, 2018 at 12:52 pm

    What a great idea! My word of the year is Adventure but it does encompass various goals and things I want to work toward. I don’t really have very specific goals, because if I don’t reach them, that’s okay. I just want to keep reaching forward. I like the words you chose! Good luck.


    • Jessica January 12, 2018 at 12:11 pm

      I love that! Adventurous is the perfect word.

  • Ariel January 3, 2018 at 3:38 pm

    This is definitely a wonderful idea. I love how one of your goals is kindness. I think we could all learn to be a little more kind in this world, me included. I am definitely excited to see what 2018 brings for me.

    • Jessica January 12, 2018 at 12:12 pm

      I agree completely, Ariel! 🙂 Thank you.

  • Susannah January 3, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    I love these words!!!! I hope they truly guide you in the coming year! <3

    • Jessica January 12, 2018 at 12:23 pm

      Thank you so much!

  • Lauren January 4, 2018 at 9:15 am

    We set some huge business and personal goals this year! I feel like it is so important to stretch yourself and get out of your comfort zone! That is where the growth happens.

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:33 am

      Absolutely! I agree for sure.

  • Elisa January 4, 2018 at 2:39 pm

    We seem to be on the same wave length! Great post. Perfect things to focus on for 2018!

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:38 am

      Thank you, Elisa!

  • Courtney Buechle January 4, 2018 at 3:28 pm

    I love this but I am especially jealous of your week trip you have planned in March. I have always always wanted to go surfing. I can’t wait to see pictures 🙂

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:38 am

      It should be super fun. I can’t wait!

  • celeste wright January 4, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    I am definitely making KINDNESS a priority this year. Thanks for this inspiring read!

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:39 am

      Sounds like the perfect priority.

  • Jessica Hughes January 4, 2018 at 6:13 pm

    I really love this idea of picking three words that define your purpose and working towards those every day of the year. I think your three words are really great and will serve you well through 2018.

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:39 am

      Thanks, Jessica. I am excited about this year.

  • Kylie January 4, 2018 at 11:39 pm

    I love this idea going into the new year! Your three words are spot on and sounds like 2018 is going to be great!! So cool you are going to a surf camp! I have only surfed twice and I will tell you that it is an amazing workout and such a rush! I totally know now why people are addicting to surfing. Happy travels and can’t wait to hear about the training process!

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:40 am

      Thank you so much! I can’t wait to try it and hope I pick it up while I am there.

  • Catherine January 5, 2018 at 8:13 am

    These are great goals to strive for. Writing down what you want to accomplish is a first step to reaching goals. Happy New Year!

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:40 am

      Thank you, Catherine!

  • Maryal January 5, 2018 at 12:35 pm

    This is awesome! Such a good reminder for the start of 2018. And I love what you said about kindness and couldn’t agree more. Saving this one!

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:45 am

      Thank you so much! I am hoping it’s a great year for all of us!

  • Renee Rose January 5, 2018 at 9:09 pm

    This is so inspiring! I like how so many people this year are choosing words to live by instead of just specific goals. I think out of those kindness may be the hardest because other people can be cruel at times and it’s not always easy to be kind in return.

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:47 am

      I agree girl. I am a kind person, but not always to the people who may need it most (especially when they aren’t kind to me).

  • dixya @food, pleasure, and health January 8, 2018 at 6:35 am

    challenge is always something i add to my list to things to do because thats the only way i can grow and be in a slightly uncomfortable place. i want to be more intentional with my time this year.

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:48 am

      Absolutely. I love the idea of intention too. 🙂

  • stacy gordon January 8, 2018 at 8:05 am

    I look forward to hearing more about LFT and your experience there.

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:48 am

      Girl, I am loving it! It’s been so fun so far!

  • Mai Lyn Ngo January 8, 2018 at 10:37 am

    I really love this. I think you are some of the most encouraging and kindest people I know. I know more often times and than not, your words have helped me keep going. Thanks Jess and looking forward to seeing you have your best year yet.

    • Jessica January 16, 2018 at 10:49 am

      Thank you so much, Mai Lyn! That means so much to me. Love you!!