Dr. Brené Brown is one of my favorite speakers alive. She has a newish special on Netflix called The Call to Courage that I watched and rewatched…and rewatched. I mentioned this special briefly in my April Favorites post. Today, I am sharing 6 lessons from The Call to Courage and ways to apply it to your life.
Great things can come from dropping plans
Dr. Brené Brown’s huge TED talk that blew up on YouTube was on vulnerability. In The Call to Courage, she shares that the night before she changed her mind about what she was going to share. Everything in that speech was her actually experiencing vulnerability rather than just talking about the stats behind it as she originally rehearsed. Decide to be vulnerable and spontaneous when given the chance, it may lead to something great.
Be specific about the criticism you take
You have to be specific about what criticism you take. You can’t care what everyone thinks, but you can care about the people who matter and are also being vulnerable. This does not include people on social media or people who do not know you. The people who love you because of your imperfection and vulnerability are the only people who you should care what they think. Block out the chatter of people who aren’t truly invested in your life, and listen to the criticism of those who are.
Always use the “magic sentence”
The best way to deal with conflict is to recognize that your brain is making up a story in order to protect itself. This story may or may not be accurate, so it’s important to articulate your brain’s assumption. When conflict arises, calmly confront the person by using the “magic sentence.” Say “the story I’m telling myself is…” and speak from your heart so the other person knows where you are coming from. Be patient. Listen. Understand that their brain is making up a story too.
The opposite of belonging is fitting in
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, joy, and belonging. Belonging is never betraying who you are for other people. It never means changing who you are, but to accept and be yourself. Embrace your differences. Don’t compromise yourself. Be authentic. Belong.
Find gratitude in the ordinary moments and be joyful
Dr. Brené Brown states that “joy is the most vulnerable of all human emotions,” because people fear that if they feel too much joy, something may come along and take it. However, the people that do lean fully into joy practice gratitude. Gratitude is finding joy in the extraordinary moments, the ones that take our breath away, and truly find joy in the every day, ordinary moments that you would miss if they were taken away. Take a moment and just commit to the feeling.
Also, sometimes just do the joyful thing for the heck of it. Do something that makes you happy, even if there isn’t an ROI. Don’t overanalyze and overthink every decision, and sometimes, do something that brings you joy.
Take the risk. Be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is having the courage to show up when you don’t know the outcomeDr. Brené Brown
Vulnerability is difficult. It can even be dangerous. You will fail. You will even experience heartbreak. However, taking risks is far better than looking back and asking yourself “what if I had been courageous? What if I took that chance”
What will you do to live more courageously? Leave me a comment below.