Thank You Note Etiquette

July 29, 2016
love you more too north dallas blogger plano lifestyle blogger Thank you note etiquette Basic Invite

I admit, I can be terrible about sending thank you notes.  During the school year, I remember to write thank you notes to the parents and families when I receive gifts.  However, in my daily life, I make excuses, get busy, or resort to a text message.  Gratitude via text message is not inappropriate, but the art of thank you notes isn’t dead.  Here is a thank you note etiquette guide for the busy woman.

Reasons you can send a thank you note

There are many reasons you can send a thank you note, but here are just a few:

If you receive a gift (birthday, wedding, shower, etc.)… or a puppy (you should always write a “thank you” note if someone gives you a puppy)

If someone brings you food.

If someone cooks for you. (At your house or theirs)

If someone picks you up or takes you to the airport and saves you the Uber fare.

If someone helps you with something.

If someone takes care of your house while you are away.

If someone takes care of your dogs while you are away.

If someone supports you during a difficult time.

If you interview for a job.

Just because.

Have you ever received a “thank you for being my friend” card just because?  One of my best friends is the absolute best at writing thank you notes.  Often, she writes letters and cards to her friends just because.  One of my thirty things to do before turning 30 is to write 30 handwritten notes to people in my life that mean the most to me. Most of these will be “thank you for being my friend because” cards just because.

Tips for writing thank you notes

Timing is everything

Be sure to send a thank you note within the week of receiving the help or gift. The exception: after your wedding, you should write your thank you cards within six weeks.

Have a stack of blank thank you cards

love you more too north dallas blogger plano lifestyle blogger Thank you note etiquette Basic Invite

One of the best ways to greatly increase the probability of writing a thank you note is to have thank you cards on hand at all times.  Keep a stack at home and work, so you can promptly write a thank you note.

I discovered Basic Invite and I don’t think I will ever buy a pack of cards at the grocery store again.  Despite their name, they offer more than just baby shower, wedding, and birthday invitations.  You can actually create custom thank you cards from an upload or a template.  Since they offer over 160 color options and ability to change the color of every element, including the envelope color, to create a truly personalized thank you card.  Speaking of envelopes, they have the peel and seal kind, so you don’t have to lick them!love you more too north dallas blogger plano lifestyle blogger Thank you note etiquette Basic Invite

You can design and order a set, or create several custom samples to make a variety pack.  I designed several cards with the same color scheme and ordered the samples. Either way, ordering a sample is a great way to see exactly how your cards or invitations will print out.  This would have come in handy 8 years ago when I ordered my wedding invitations.

love you more too north dallas blogger plano lifestyle blogger Thank you note etiquette Basic Invite

Collect colorful pens

Your pens don’t have to be colorful, but have several great pens available.  I have a stationary box full of thank you cards and a pen jar on my desk to make it writing thank you cards easily accessible.

love you more too north dallas blogger plano lifestyle blogger Thank you note etiquette Basic Invite

Keep stamps on hand

It’s all about convenience nowadays. When you have everything you need to write and send a thank you note at your fingertips, you will be more likely to do so.

What to say

Be sincere and personal. Keep it simple. Use names and be sure to spell everything correctly.  Thank the person for the gift/help.  Include how you will use the gift or where you will displayed it (if it is flowers or something). Write a sincere ending. Sign your name.

Dear (enter name here),

Thank you for the __________.  This will come in handy for my ___________.  I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. I hope to see you soon.



When do you usually send thank you notes?  Leave me a comment below! Also, check out Basic Invite and let me know what card/invitation you plan to order.

Pinterest love you more too north dallas blogger plano lifestyle blogger Thank you note etiquette Basic Invite

PIN for later

This post was sponsored by Basic Invite, but all opinions remain my own.

  • candy July 29, 2016 at 7:26 am

    Would be so great if this THANK YOU notes came back in vogue. When I receive one it always makes me feel special and makes me think how special they took the time to send this.

    • Jessica July 29, 2016 at 11:06 am

      Yes! I love receiving them too. 🙂

  • Aishia Ezekyel July 29, 2016 at 7:27 am

    I used to collect cards when I was in grade school but now I rarely see good ones because most times, thank you cards are being personalized and mass produced.

    • Jessica July 29, 2016 at 11:07 am

      They are mass produced, which is what I like about Basic Invite. You can create your own! 🙂

  • Chelsea July 29, 2016 at 8:46 am

    What a great post, lady! It’s so nice to know that thank you’s still exist! I’ve been writing them for recent brands I have worked with. The only thing I regret is not thinking to write them out sooner! You’re such a sweetie; your thoughtfulness will not go wasted!

    • Jessica July 29, 2016 at 11:08 am

      That’s so smart! You’re so sweet, Chelsea!

  • Lindsay July 29, 2016 at 11:40 am

    I naturally gravitated towards this post because I have written about the art of writing thank you notes, and it’s a topic I’m very passionate about! It’s great to find someone with that same passion. Great tips.

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 1:55 pm

      Thanks, Lindsay. It’s a great topic. 😉

  • Rachel July 29, 2016 at 12:29 pm

    I love this! To be honest, I haven’t been as good with my thank you notes (handwritten ones that is) as I’ve gotten older. I need to get back on track!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      Me either! That’s why I started a box to keep everything in so it would make it easier.

  • Jessica July 29, 2016 at 12:39 pm

    I love that you wrote about this. Unfortunately thank you notes are becoming a lost art!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      I know! It’s so sad. I love receiving them. 🙂

  • Madeline July 29, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    These are great tips! I hate feeling like I live in a time when hand-written notes are far and few between, but anytime I get a gift I do a try to write a note instead of a text/email! These are so helpful!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 1:57 pm

      Yes! That is exactly how I feel.

  • Neely (@Neelykins) July 29, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    So glad you wrote about this! I get really annoyed when people don’t write thank you and don’t write them promptly!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 1:57 pm

      Promptness is key! Absolutely.

  • KP July 29, 2016 at 6:04 pm

    This is great! In my opinion, people don’t write enough thank you cards (including myself). I love any type of stationary, so I adore every set of Thank You cards I see. I usually don’t buy them because I never know what to include in them. Next time I’ll buy them for sure 🙂

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 1:59 pm

      Me too. Stationary is a weakness of mine. I was so happy when I found Basic Invite because all of theirs are so cute!

  • Crystal // Dreams, etc. July 29, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    Great post! I need to be better about sending thank you cards.

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 2:00 pm

      We all do, unfortunately. Hope this helps!

  • Mariah July 30, 2016 at 1:06 am

    One thig I’m not ever looking forward to is writing wedding thank you notes! Eeeeep. thanks for breakig it down though!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 2:00 pm

      I loved doing mine! Until about 20 in and then it was too repetitive.

  • Aileen July 30, 2016 at 10:49 am

    I used to be so good about thank you notes. But after 2 kids and a 3rd pregnancy, not so much. I need to get back on my game!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      I can imagine that would make it more difficult. 🙂

  • Julie July 31, 2016 at 10:48 pm

    I had a reputation for sending hand written cards to say thank you or just that I’m thinking of someone since I live so far from my family and oldest friends. The last year has been crazy and I haven’t done a good job of living up to my reputation. Thank you for the reminder!

    • Jessica August 3, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      Of course! Hopefully you can get back in to it!